It's offically Chrismas time! YEAH! So I got up this morning (ok, it was rather around noon), looked at my belly, decided it was still really flat and ran into the kitchen to start the fun. I tore open the bags of Spekulatius and ginger bread and stuffed my mouth with it.....mmmmmhhhh....I love Christmas time. I love the smells, the food and sometimes even the cold weather.
I wrote blogs about what I love about summer and autumn. Now I'll write one about what I love about Christmas and winter since Christmas (at least the food part) might last until early February. I'm pretty strict about not starting before the first of advent but I don't have a rule about when to stop :)
So, here's my Why-I-Like- Christmas/Winter list:
I like...
- ginger bread and spekulatius (traditional German cookies)
- Glühwein (hot wine you drink in order not to get cold)
- stollen
- German christmas markets
- the smell of oranges
- all the beautiful candles in our house
- the decorated towns and houses
- reading in my warm bed
- walks in the snow (if it was there)
- skiing (if there was snow...)
- Christmas songs (at least some of them)
- family time
- Christmas day
- buying stuff for the people I love (to a certain degree)
- listening to the christmas story and thinking about the original reason why we get the eat, drink and enjoy all the things mentioned above
- seeing my relatives
- the smiles on the little kids faces on Christmas
- Santa Claus
- all the TV shows about what happened during the year (just a nice way to reflect on the year)
- New Year's Eve
-the fireworks on New Year's Eve
It makes me sad that this Christmas will be different. Less happy since Nico is still very much depressed. I miss the feeling of security. Usually everybody is happy on Christmas and we are proud of the things we achieved during the year together as a family. This year, we will have to force Nico to do pretty much everything. I hope I can do all this without crying and my parents will have the strength needed as well. Yet, there's still time for a Christmas miracle.
What do you like about Christmas?
Sunday, 27 November 2011
Saturday, 26 November 2011
You have to love yourself before you can accept other's love
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering
are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is "AUTHENTICITY".
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
as I try to force my desires on this person,
even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it,
and even though this person was me.
Today I call it "RESPECT".
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it "Maturity".
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance,
I am in the right place at the right time,
and everything happens at the exactly right moment.
So I could be calm.
Today I call it "SELF-CONFIDENCE".
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time,
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness,
things I love to do and that make my heart cheer,
and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it "SIMPLICITY".
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything
that is no good for my health - food, people, things, situations,
and everything the drew me down and away from myself.
At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is "LOVE OF ONESELF".
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right,
and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is "MODESTY".
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past
and worry about the future.
Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it. "FULFILLMENT".
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick.
But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection "WISDOM OF THE HEART".
We no longer need to fear arguments,
confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others.
Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know THAT IS "LIFE"!
Charlie Chaplin
are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is "AUTHENTICITY".
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
as I try to force my desires on this person,
even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it,
and even though this person was me.
Today I call it "RESPECT".
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it "Maturity".
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance,
I am in the right place at the right time,
and everything happens at the exactly right moment.
So I could be calm.
Today I call it "SELF-CONFIDENCE".
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time,
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness,
things I love to do and that make my heart cheer,
and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it "SIMPLICITY".
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything
that is no good for my health - food, people, things, situations,
and everything the drew me down and away from myself.
At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is "LOVE OF ONESELF".
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right,
and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is "MODESTY".
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past
and worry about the future.
Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it. "FULFILLMENT".
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick.
But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection "WISDOM OF THE HEART".
We no longer need to fear arguments,
confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others.
Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know THAT IS "LIFE"!
Charlie Chaplin
Thursday, 24 November 2011
I pray
I had a conversation with a very good friend of mine today. We were talking about everything from university to guys and sports. Of course I talked about all the negative/sad stuff going on with Hendrik and my brother in my life at the moment. She asked me what I did when I feel especially sad. I said I pray. Don't get me wrong; I'm not the kind of person that believes that praying is enough to make everything all right again. But I believe it helps. My friend is not religious at all. And I usually don't talk about my faith except with people I do know believe themselves. But when she asked me about what I did when I felt desperate I gave an honest answer. So she asked what I would do if one day I should find out that there is no God, that Im talking to thin air (not that I would ever find out because I would not revive) My answer to that was that I would still pray because it helps me to feel better and gives me hope. Her reaction to this answer was laughter. She called me a funny person. This HURT. To me this is a serious topic. My answer was not a joke. I still would pray if there was nobody listening to me. I did not know how to react to her laughter as I could not do what I wanted to do which was cry. Faith is a personal topic and even if somebody told me he believed in the holy tree trunk I would not laugh at him because I could imagine that it would hurt this person. Not believing is all right with me, but making fun of somebody because of what he believes is just cruel. Is this what friends do?
How would you have reacted?
How would you have reacted?
Sunday, 20 November 2011
A request
As you know English is not my first language. I have always loved the language from the time I learned the first words in primary school which eventually led me to study English (&Biology) at university. On Thursday I need to hand in an essay I wrote about the benefits of running. So here's my request: Could you maybe read my essay and comment on/ correct the mistakes? I would be very thankful.
Here it is:
The Benefits of Running
Mankind started walking and running four to six million years ago when we rose from all four which proved to be tremendously faster than any other kind movement. Long distance running first became known when a Greek messenger ran 42, 195 kilometers from Marathon to Sparta delivering the news of the Persian landing at Marathon which became a legend and inspired people to run this distance as fast as possible. The first official competitive marathon was run in the Olympic Games in 1896 (Weil 2007:1). Nowadays, running is the most popular form of exercise. But why do so many people put on their running gear after a long and stressful day at work instead of simply sitting down on the couch in front of the TV? It is because they hope to profit from the numerous benefits running offers like increased health, positive psychological effects as well as the gain of positive character traits like perseverance and patience.
Running is the perfect workout to train your body and to improve your health at the same time. First of all, it helps to manage and reduce weight since it burns more calories per minute than any other form of exercise plus it slows down the aging process as it enhances the production of hormones which help to stay young. By challenging the body the muscles are strengthened instead of losing their tone as they respond to the physical demand. Hence, runners seldom suffer from osteoporosis. But you are not only working out to improve your physical appearance, but also the overall function of your body. Running reduces the risk of a heart attack considerably by strengthening the heart and lowering the blood pressure. The heart of an inactive person beats 36,000 times more than that of a runner which shows that a runner’s heart also works more effectively (Luff 2011). Yet, serious runners often run beyond the amount of distance that benefits health as they become addicted to the exhilaration caused by running. Nevertheless, the addiction to this kind of drug keeps them from becoming addicted to other drugs or alcohol.
Even though the benefits for your health are the strongest advantages of engaging in long distance running, the psychological benefits caused by running are no less important. Runners report being happier and less stressed than people who do not exercise regularly. Running builds up confidence in yourself which results from the knowledge that the body is strong and capable of facing physical challenges. When the run is challenging, the individual experiences a sense of accomplishment which takes the mind away from negative stressors to a feeling of accomplishment and pride. Additionally, the described reduction of weight lets you gain a better self- image. Most important, it reduces stress since the mind is focused on the task ahead when running instead of being stressed about work or family. Hence, it is not surprising that running is used for the treatment of clinical depression and addiction (McLeod Sadler 2009).
Moreover, running teaches you to set a goal and work hard for it. Thus, running teaches patience and perseverance which are essential character traits in every aspect of your life. By running hard one teaches oneself that giving up is not an option and the momentary pain or unease will pass but defeat lasts forever. As Lance Armstrong wrote in his book: “The mind has to control the body. Never let the mind tell the body what to do.” (Armstrong 2000: 126). If you have gained the increase of willpower on the running path, you can transfer it to life in general. Hence, a runner might be more capable to solve problems at his job which makes him a better employee and stronger person in his everyday life.
Considering the advantages for your health, the psychological effects plus the gain of the important character traits perseverance and patience which can be achieved by running it is not surprising that so many people go for a run after a long and stressful day at work. Hence, the trend of being active in order to do something for the mind and body will only increase in the years to come as health problems like obesity become more apparent to the public eye and mankind rediscovers the importance for a healthy lifestyle which leads us back to our roots.
Here it is:
The Benefits of Running
Mankind started walking and running four to six million years ago when we rose from all four which proved to be tremendously faster than any other kind movement. Long distance running first became known when a Greek messenger ran 42, 195 kilometers from Marathon to Sparta delivering the news of the Persian landing at Marathon which became a legend and inspired people to run this distance as fast as possible. The first official competitive marathon was run in the Olympic Games in 1896 (Weil 2007:1). Nowadays, running is the most popular form of exercise. But why do so many people put on their running gear after a long and stressful day at work instead of simply sitting down on the couch in front of the TV? It is because they hope to profit from the numerous benefits running offers like increased health, positive psychological effects as well as the gain of positive character traits like perseverance and patience.
Running is the perfect workout to train your body and to improve your health at the same time. First of all, it helps to manage and reduce weight since it burns more calories per minute than any other form of exercise plus it slows down the aging process as it enhances the production of hormones which help to stay young. By challenging the body the muscles are strengthened instead of losing their tone as they respond to the physical demand. Hence, runners seldom suffer from osteoporosis. But you are not only working out to improve your physical appearance, but also the overall function of your body. Running reduces the risk of a heart attack considerably by strengthening the heart and lowering the blood pressure. The heart of an inactive person beats 36,000 times more than that of a runner which shows that a runner’s heart also works more effectively (Luff 2011). Yet, serious runners often run beyond the amount of distance that benefits health as they become addicted to the exhilaration caused by running. Nevertheless, the addiction to this kind of drug keeps them from becoming addicted to other drugs or alcohol.
Even though the benefits for your health are the strongest advantages of engaging in long distance running, the psychological benefits caused by running are no less important. Runners report being happier and less stressed than people who do not exercise regularly. Running builds up confidence in yourself which results from the knowledge that the body is strong and capable of facing physical challenges. When the run is challenging, the individual experiences a sense of accomplishment which takes the mind away from negative stressors to a feeling of accomplishment and pride. Additionally, the described reduction of weight lets you gain a better self- image. Most important, it reduces stress since the mind is focused on the task ahead when running instead of being stressed about work or family. Hence, it is not surprising that running is used for the treatment of clinical depression and addiction (McLeod Sadler 2009).
Moreover, running teaches you to set a goal and work hard for it. Thus, running teaches patience and perseverance which are essential character traits in every aspect of your life. By running hard one teaches oneself that giving up is not an option and the momentary pain or unease will pass but defeat lasts forever. As Lance Armstrong wrote in his book: “The mind has to control the body. Never let the mind tell the body what to do.” (Armstrong 2000: 126). If you have gained the increase of willpower on the running path, you can transfer it to life in general. Hence, a runner might be more capable to solve problems at his job which makes him a better employee and stronger person in his everyday life.
Considering the advantages for your health, the psychological effects plus the gain of the important character traits perseverance and patience which can be achieved by running it is not surprising that so many people go for a run after a long and stressful day at work. Hence, the trend of being active in order to do something for the mind and body will only increase in the years to come as health problems like obesity become more apparent to the public eye and mankind rediscovers the importance for a healthy lifestyle which leads us back to our roots.
Tuesday, 15 November 2011
Don't read if happy
Back in June I vowed to only blog positives from now on since no one likes to read whiny blogs. Yet, this blog is also my journal and feel like I have to write about negative things as well. So, if you are in a good mood just skip this post :).
There's something wrong with Nico's (my brother) lip. Since the surgery one week ago it looks weird. I don't even want to write this because I had hoped soo much that finally everything would be ok. It is not. And it breaks my heart. My does he have so much bad luck??? This is UNFAIR. I BEGGED god last week to finally let this be his last jaw surgery. Now this...Nico is depressed, of course. Seriously depressed and we don't know what to do. When I was home at the weekend I almost could not stand this sad, sad mood.
I will quit my job tomorrow. I feel like it's not good for me since you have to work very fast which makes me nervous. Nervous nervous. I suffer a lot. About two days before I have to work I start being sad. This is not helpful in my current situation. If it was my real job I would fight, but this is only a stupid student job and there are others. Still, I feel like a failure. I wanted to prove that I could do it, that I would not simply give up because I have to fight. Yet, it makes no sense. My mouth turns dry the second I start and I sweat like crazy.
I honestly thought there were better times ahead after all the mess with hendrik was over. But it isn't. 2011 is not my year. That's for sure. 6 more weeks to go! 2012 has to be better!
Sorry, for this post.
There's something wrong with Nico's (my brother) lip. Since the surgery one week ago it looks weird. I don't even want to write this because I had hoped soo much that finally everything would be ok. It is not. And it breaks my heart. My does he have so much bad luck??? This is UNFAIR. I BEGGED god last week to finally let this be his last jaw surgery. Now this...Nico is depressed, of course. Seriously depressed and we don't know what to do. When I was home at the weekend I almost could not stand this sad, sad mood.
I will quit my job tomorrow. I feel like it's not good for me since you have to work very fast which makes me nervous. Nervous nervous. I suffer a lot. About two days before I have to work I start being sad. This is not helpful in my current situation. If it was my real job I would fight, but this is only a stupid student job and there are others. Still, I feel like a failure. I wanted to prove that I could do it, that I would not simply give up because I have to fight. Yet, it makes no sense. My mouth turns dry the second I start and I sweat like crazy.
I honestly thought there were better times ahead after all the mess with hendrik was over. But it isn't. 2011 is not my year. That's for sure. 6 more weeks to go! 2012 has to be better!
Sorry, for this post.
Thursday, 10 November 2011
Random thoughts
My brother's surgery went well on Wedenesday. Tomorrow my parents are going to drive to Stuttgart to pick him up. Now, we all pray that when the swelling goes away everything will look fine and most important, my brother likes the result. Thanks to everyone who prayed :)
My life here is the usual. Lots of university and lots of work. Little sleep. I did not have the time to do as much sport as I would like to this week, but it was a good week. I have two offers to tutor kids but I don't know if I can accept them since I'm already this busy. Next week I have to work twice for the job I got in September plus tutoring the twins once. Yet, I think I could push myself harder and do it all. I still have free time in the evening I could use for Sport etc. But then, I'm usually very tired in the evening. I don't even want to start thinking about what I could do with the money. Planes come to my mind... Extremely tempting!!! Any advice?
I have had two good weeks with Hendrik. He cooks for me, does some (more)housework which extremely helps. I sometimes have the feeling that I just have to train him a little harder and he will be Mr Right. But it's a lot of work.
This weekend we've got a little partying planned. As you might have notice I'm not a party animal. I just don't like places where the music is so loud that you cannot have a conversation with the person standing next to you. And I don't like to go out in the middle of the night. I prefer having a nice long conversation on someone's couch and then say goodbye at midnight. Some people say I'm missing out on something, but I don't agree. After years of pretending to be someone I'm not and partying at the weekends, I'm happy the way it is now. Sometimes I'll go out and dance a bit. But afterwards I've usually had enough for the next month. So this weekend some people convinced me to get out of my shell and actually go out.
Enjoy your weekend!
My life here is the usual. Lots of university and lots of work. Little sleep. I did not have the time to do as much sport as I would like to this week, but it was a good week. I have two offers to tutor kids but I don't know if I can accept them since I'm already this busy. Next week I have to work twice for the job I got in September plus tutoring the twins once. Yet, I think I could push myself harder and do it all. I still have free time in the evening I could use for Sport etc. But then, I'm usually very tired in the evening. I don't even want to start thinking about what I could do with the money. Planes come to my mind... Extremely tempting!!! Any advice?
I have had two good weeks with Hendrik. He cooks for me, does some (more)housework which extremely helps. I sometimes have the feeling that I just have to train him a little harder and he will be Mr Right. But it's a lot of work.
This weekend we've got a little partying planned. As you might have notice I'm not a party animal. I just don't like places where the music is so loud that you cannot have a conversation with the person standing next to you. And I don't like to go out in the middle of the night. I prefer having a nice long conversation on someone's couch and then say goodbye at midnight. Some people say I'm missing out on something, but I don't agree. After years of pretending to be someone I'm not and partying at the weekends, I'm happy the way it is now. Sometimes I'll go out and dance a bit. But afterwards I've usually had enough for the next month. So this weekend some people convinced me to get out of my shell and actually go out.
Enjoy your weekend!
Monday, 7 November 2011
My brother
On Wednesday my brother is having yet another surgery. It all started in July 2010. He had surgery on his jaw which was pretty hard for all of us. I've never seen my poor little brother so sad and desperate. He looked so different. It was a 9 hour surgery. He had just graduated from High School and instead of having a careless summer of fun, he went to the hospital to have this terrible surgery and recovered for the rest of the summer. The first time he could bite into an apple again was in December! It was very hard. Because of all this he did not begin to study in fall. Instead he learnt Latin. That's my nerdy brother. If you have a gap year, learn Latin FOR FUN.
In February he had the nails removed and we hoped that the next step could be his nose because if you move what's underneath (the jaw) what's above will also change. But when the swelling went away he could not close his mouth properly again. Turns out the surgeon made a mistake. This means that on Wednesday (half a year and countless doctors visits later) he is having another surgery. And another in February to do his nose. My hear aches for him. He still could not start to study because all of this s..t (sorry, but there is no other word to describe it). I want him to be well so badly. He's my little brother after all. The last weeks were just hard again. All his friends moved away since most of them had done a gap year as well and now went to college. He became very depressed. He hardly left the house. I cannot imagine how hard this has to be for my parents. Im gone most of the week. But whenever I come home he is in his room. On top of all this, he's a perfectionist. Everything from his trousers to his hair cut to his job has to be absolutely perfect. Good is not enough. He wants to study medicine. But it is hard to get admitted. He has a VERY good A- level, but it might not be good enough. I would do anything to help him. If I could, I would have the surgeries for him. I love him soo much. And I can't stand to see him hurt again. But there's nothing I can do.
I was in love with him since the day he was born. It's the first memory I have of my life. My grandma woke me up to tell me that I had a brother. I was two at the time. During the next 10 years we were hardly apart. We played together and did our sports together. In school I watched over him (as much as he allowed me). When we grew older we also grew apart. But I never stopped terribly loving him. And I believe he did too. He does not talk about such things. When I graduated I stayed home for 2 years because of him. I thought we might have more good times together. which we did. but during the past ten years there was always something inside me hoping for more. If I could I would still be best friends with him. But that's not possible. We have to be individual persons. That's at least what he seems to think. He built some very high walls around him. Still, that does not mean I would not do ANYTHING for him. He's so bitter now. He won't even let me hug him... which hurts soooo bad. Can't I have my cute, cheerful brother back, PLEASE!!!!
If you find time, could you pray for him? It would mean a lot to me...and to him.
In February he had the nails removed and we hoped that the next step could be his nose because if you move what's underneath (the jaw) what's above will also change. But when the swelling went away he could not close his mouth properly again. Turns out the surgeon made a mistake. This means that on Wednesday (half a year and countless doctors visits later) he is having another surgery. And another in February to do his nose. My hear aches for him. He still could not start to study because all of this s..t (sorry, but there is no other word to describe it). I want him to be well so badly. He's my little brother after all. The last weeks were just hard again. All his friends moved away since most of them had done a gap year as well and now went to college. He became very depressed. He hardly left the house. I cannot imagine how hard this has to be for my parents. Im gone most of the week. But whenever I come home he is in his room. On top of all this, he's a perfectionist. Everything from his trousers to his hair cut to his job has to be absolutely perfect. Good is not enough. He wants to study medicine. But it is hard to get admitted. He has a VERY good A- level, but it might not be good enough. I would do anything to help him. If I could, I would have the surgeries for him. I love him soo much. And I can't stand to see him hurt again. But there's nothing I can do.
I was in love with him since the day he was born. It's the first memory I have of my life. My grandma woke me up to tell me that I had a brother. I was two at the time. During the next 10 years we were hardly apart. We played together and did our sports together. In school I watched over him (as much as he allowed me). When we grew older we also grew apart. But I never stopped terribly loving him. And I believe he did too. He does not talk about such things. When I graduated I stayed home for 2 years because of him. I thought we might have more good times together. which we did. but during the past ten years there was always something inside me hoping for more. If I could I would still be best friends with him. But that's not possible. We have to be individual persons. That's at least what he seems to think. He built some very high walls around him. Still, that does not mean I would not do ANYTHING for him. He's so bitter now. He won't even let me hug him... which hurts soooo bad. Can't I have my cute, cheerful brother back, PLEASE!!!!
If you find time, could you pray for him? It would mean a lot to me...and to him.
Sunday, 6 November 2011
Dietrich Bonhoeffer
I just came back from a meeting with my church group I really love. Today's subject was Dietrich Bonhoeffer. He's very popular in Germany and an inspiring personality. He was a theologian and in the resistence movement against Hitler. I learned a lot of new facts about him and war (again!) Did you know that half of the people killed in World War II were killed in the last year of the six year war? Plus, there were about 40 (and that's only the official number) attacks against Hitler and all of them failed. Devil must really have been holding his hand above him.
He came from an aristrochratic family and could have lived an easy, comfortable life. But first he studied theology and when he was already in the USA he felt called to go back to Germany. He was killed only a month before war ended. His last words were: "For you it's the end, for me it's only the beginning."
If you want to find out more: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dietrich_Bonhoeffer
He came from an aristrochratic family and could have lived an easy, comfortable life. But first he studied theology and when he was already in the USA he felt called to go back to Germany. He was killed only a month before war ended. His last words were: "For you it's the end, for me it's only the beginning."
If you want to find out more: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dietrich_Bonhoeffer
Friday, 4 November 2011
Fraternity
Hendrik left his fraternity. For me. Because I said I couldn't live with the way he changed. They drink a lot of alcohol without a reason and their view of the world is...well, undescribable. I did never want to take his friends away.I never thought he would really leave. But he did! He must really love me. The fraternity meant a lot to him.
Now, no one of his "friends" talks to him anymore. This is incredibly hard for him. He is understanding. He says that's the way you treat someone who leaves. It's meant for life. I'm not. If they completely stop caring was there really a friendship? Then there's the laundry problem. We don't have a washing machine in our appartment. I take my clothes home and Hendrik used to wash his stuff at the fraternity house. When he left there was still some laundry at the house plus my favorite jacket. They said he could not have the stuff back! This was two weeks ago.
Hendrik's uncle, hajo, is in the fratiernity as well. In the last days I urged Hendrik to contact him. But Hendrik was scared. He thought Hajo might never talk to Hendrik again since he left the fraternity. But eventually he did. Hajo took care of the issue immeadiately. Now we have our stuff back. Hendrik is broken. I feel so bad. Because he did this for me. If it was not for me he would still have his "friends". Hajo wouldn't be mad at him. I don't know what to do.
The positive part is that it made me so angry that I just got on the dreaded dreadmill and ran 15 kilometers. For the first time EVER.
Now, no one of his "friends" talks to him anymore. This is incredibly hard for him. He is understanding. He says that's the way you treat someone who leaves. It's meant for life. I'm not. If they completely stop caring was there really a friendship? Then there's the laundry problem. We don't have a washing machine in our appartment. I take my clothes home and Hendrik used to wash his stuff at the fraternity house. When he left there was still some laundry at the house plus my favorite jacket. They said he could not have the stuff back! This was two weeks ago.
Hendrik's uncle, hajo, is in the fratiernity as well. In the last days I urged Hendrik to contact him. But Hendrik was scared. He thought Hajo might never talk to Hendrik again since he left the fraternity. But eventually he did. Hajo took care of the issue immeadiately. Now we have our stuff back. Hendrik is broken. I feel so bad. Because he did this for me. If it was not for me he would still have his "friends". Hajo wouldn't be mad at him. I don't know what to do.
The positive part is that it made me so angry that I just got on the dreaded dreadmill and ran 15 kilometers. For the first time EVER.
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